Somewhere Over The Rainbow -- The Wizard Of Oz (1939 Film)

A Green Eyed Monster

Everytime someone visits us and goes straight to the baby, someone else clams up and refuses to speak and sometimes become a tad too sensitive that the slightest thing seem to turn on the waterworks! Once my father came around and went straight to the baby and after a while handed the baby over to me and called for the older one and she just flatly refused him. And she stood firm by her decision. It took my father a long long time to coax her into giving him a hug.

Today, my sis came by and went straight to the baby. The older one asked for water, poured half of it on the mattress pad she was standing on (which I just let go) and held the cup to her mouth and stood that way for a good 10 minutes! Imagine that? Ten whole minutes. What resolve. What determination. Don't you think?

So finally when I asked her what she's holding the cup to her mouth that way for, she threw the cup away and started crying. Only then I realised that she was upset my sister didn't hug and kiss her and play with her first before the baby. My poor little green eyed monster.

mike zakowski - our fav monsters inc. character

This Love Hurts

I never imagined when they say "FULLTIME" mum, it really means round-the-clock-like-24/7-with-no-rest-whatsoever!

I've had days when I thought to myself I'd probably be a better mum if I was working and come home to spend 1 or 2 hours before their bedtime and leave early in the morning before they wake up. Like I used to, with the older one. Was I a better mum then? I guess I was. I was much more loving and tolerant and fun to be with (this is MY assumption, of course).

These days, if I wake up at 7 - 7.30am, I'd be able to clean & tidy up the house, do the laundry and have a cup of coffee, sitting down, like properly with a sandwich or biscuits or something. But if I slept in and wake up closer to 9am, I won't be able to do ANYTHING, that is, no coffee, no breakfast, no lunch, not even pee break until its 2 or 3pm when they both nap. That frustrates me.

Few days back one of those days when I havne't managed to get anything done, while I was feeding the baby, I asked her to grab a tissue so that I could wipe her nose. She refused to budge. I said it again and again AND again. She ignored me completely and carried on with whatever she was playing with. So I shouted.

Only then she grabbed a tissue, let me wipe her nose, threw the tissue away then came back and sat down next to me and said, "Mummy, please don't shout at Nia" with the saddest face and huge puppy-dog eyes. I knew I just screwed up, like BIG TIME. I panicked. Something I seldom do. I didn't, for a few seconds, know how to respond to that. When I came to, I said to her, "I'm sorry for shouting at you".
Did she understand that I was really, truly sorry? What goes on in her mind when she said that to me? I'd really like to understand things from her perspective and wish she was able to tell me that but I guess that will take a few more years yet.

I still haven't figured out what is OK and what is NOT OK in dealing with toddlers like her. Reading tonnes of material on disciplining toddlers only making me more confused than I ever was. I miss the days when all I'd say to her were sweet nonsenses and she just cooed and smiled and later on, babbled gibberish back to me. I miss the time when she was the baby and all I felt was overwhelming love and nothing else. What am I doing wrong?

The Aftermath

So, the storm has hit on 24th of June at approximately 9.30am at DSH, thus delivering into our hands (straight from my cut-open tummy) a bouncy baby girl. Simultaneously confirming to the audience, that 1. her lungs are working fine and 2. she's gonna be our very own Mariah, our gorgeous little Ynez Sophia were handed over to us.

Staying true to her Mariah nature, she still continues to exercise her vocal chords, now more than ever, as she approaches the twenty-one week old mark. Aren't babies amazing? The one thing I'm grateful for with both of them is that they slept like babies (erm, like babies SHOULD) through the night from the second month on. Just that this little one tends to wake at least twice in the night for feed, unlike Nia who never did. .

So, I've been home since the storm hit, for the first month had mum staying with us preparing all the delish pantang food, together with my aunt who was looking after Nia since November 2008. Then my mum went back home and aunt and I managed the two until she decided that two is more than she can handle when I go back to work. With her decision to leave, we made a critical decision for me to stay home fulltime.

Boy, am I having fun or am I having fun? C'mon, guess! :P